Maybe it’s because I’m a brat, or have a little rebellious streak or whatever, but I don’t like contrived holidays, AKA Forced Celebrations. And none is more forced than Mother’s Day (except maybe Valentine’s Day).
Mothering is hard work and isn’t treacly eighty percent of the time. Neither is marriage. Hallmark doesn’t seem to understand this. Or maybe it does, but has figured out a way to make money off of our collective sentimentality/guilt/ideals. I don’t know.
Anyway, I think holidays like Mother’s Day make it harder to live up to our own expectations of what motherhood should feel like. We think it should feel like puppies and snuggles but it actually feels like peanut butter sandwiches and bedtimes. With some hugs thrown in, yes, obviously.
Having said that, I’m all about the pursuit of excellence in our mothering journeys. It’s just that I suspect excellence doesn’t look like a promo for a made-for-TV movie (at least I’m hoping against hope it doesn’t because I demand better acting in my life-script). And I think that we all need to keep our eyes fixed not on some blurred-at-the-edges ideal of the The Mother Life but on Truth and Mercy.
Still, my kids better make or buy me cards because all the other moms are getting them. It’s just that it would be alright with me if they said something like this:
Happy Mother’s Day, all you moms (celebrate, or else)!